When you hear the word “elopement,” what comes to mind? A couple secretly running off to get married, or an adventure in a far-off land? There are so many myths about eloping, but I’m here to share what it really means and why it’s such an amazing alternative to a traditional big wedding.

Let’s dive in and debunk some of the common myths surrounding elopements!

Myth 1: Elopement Means Running Away Secretly

Traditionally, elopement was defined as running away to get married in secret. But guess what? That’s not what elopement is anymore! Elopements aren’t about secrecy or being just the two of you. And no, you don’t need to head off to Gretna Green or fly across the world.

At its core, an elopement is about having a day that is 100% focused on you as a couple, without the pressure of planning a large-scale wedding. It’s about creating a day that feels meaningful and authentic, with or without guests.

“An elopement is an intentionally small, intimate, meaningful, and authentic wedding experience that truly reflects your relationship.” – Adventure Instead

Myth 2: Elopements Only Take a Couple of Hours

An elopement isn’t just a quick 15-minute ceremony with a few photos. Your wedding day is still your wedding day, and it deserves to be celebrated from start to finish.

It’s not just about the vows; it’s about capturing the full essence of who you are as a couple. What does your perfect day look like? Maybe you’ll go for a morning walk, share a quiet lunch together, or help each other get ready. Your entire day can be documented—from the intimate first look to a champagne picnic on the beach at sunset. This is about your full story, not just a few quick snaps.

Here’s an example of how your day could unfold:

•10am: A walk along the beach, maybe even a surf—captured candidly.

•12/1pm: Lunch at a beach café with your closest guests.

•3pm: Helping each other get ready for your vows.

•5pm: Your ceremony in a breathtaking location.

•6pm: Sunset photos, plus group shots if you have guests.

•7pm: Celebrate with dinner—whether it’s a picnic, cosy restaurant, or a private chef in your Airbnb by a log fire.

Myth 3: Elopements Are Only for Adventurous Couples

Elopements aren’t just for adrenaline junkies who want to hike mountains or exchange vows on secluded beaches. The beauty of an elopement is that you can get married anywhere that feels meaningful to you. Whether that’s in the woods, by a river, or in your own back garden—it’s all about creating a day that reflects who you are as a couple.

You don’t have to trek to the top of a mountain to make your elopement special. Whether it’s an urban rooftop, a quiet park, or your favourite countryside spot, elopements are tailored completely to you.

Myth 4: Elopements Mean No Guests

There are no rules about who you can invite to an elopement. Whether it’s just the two of you or you want to include a few close family members and friends, it’s your call. One of the best things about eloping is that you don’t feel obligated to invite every distant relative—you get to do things your way.

Myth 5: Elopements Are About Saving Money

Elopements aren’t just a “budget” option. While you might save by not catering to hundreds of guests, eloping is about choosing how you want to invest your money. Whether that’s an epic location, a luxury Airbnb, or an unforgettable honeymoon, an elopement is about crafting the perfect experience—doing all the things you love, with the people who matter most.

Myth 6: Elopements Are Selfish

A wedding is about you and your partner committing your lives to one another. It’s not selfish to want a day that reflects what’s most important to you, without the pressure of putting on a show for everyone else. Your wedding day is a deeply personal moment, and planning it for yourselves is not egotistical—it’s authentic. Do what feels right for you!

Myth 7: Elopements Don’t Require Much Planning

Eloping gives you flexibility and freedom, but it still requires thoughtful planning. From choosing the perfect location to finding the right vendors and making travel arrangements, your day will be as carefully planned as any traditional wedding.

This is where I can help! Through All the Wild Within, I work with couples to plan their dream elopements in the South West, helping to create truly unique, personal experiences. Whether it’s finding the perfect location or ensuring every detail is just right, I’m here to guide you through every step of the way.

Why Elopements Are So Awesome

Now that we’ve cleared up some myths, let’s talk about why eloping could be the perfect choice for you.

•Does the idea of a big wedding make you anxious? Eloping gives you the chance to focus on what really matters—making personal vows in a setting that feels like home to you, without the pressure of performing for a crowd.

•Want an adventurous or unique wedding? You only get one wedding day—why not spend it doing something you both love? Whether that’s hiking, enjoying a BBQ in your garden, or exploring breathtaking scenery, an elopement gives you the freedom to create the day of your dreams.

•Looking for an intimate experience? Eloping allows you to be fully in the moment, together, without the distractions of a big event. It’s a day designed entirely for the two of you.

If you’re thinking about planning an elopement and don’t know where to start, I’d love to hear your ideas and help you plan the perfect day. Head over to All the Wild Within for inspiration, planning tips, and support in creating your dream elopement!